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If your Life was a Movie what kind of Movie would it be?

July 16th, 2018



If your Life was a Movie what kind of Movie would it be?


Last year I recommended a film to one my friends – Birdman, starring Michael Keaton. He hated it so much he decided to send me an email. It was succinct and the point, and simply said this:

“Your taste in films is shit. Birdman was crap…”

This hopefully tells you more about some of the friends I hang about with than it does about my taste in films.

A couple of weeks later I bumped into him and we engaged in a healthy debate about movie preferences.

Clearly we had different tastes. It emerged that he liked faster moving films, with powerful heroes and more engaging, action oriented plots, whereas I tended to go for more character driven stories; ones with a slower pace that focused on developing the emotions and deeper intentions of the main characters.

I did my best to convince him he was missing out but it didn’t work. Off he went to go watch the latest Avengers movie…

I’m not sure what Sigmund Freud would have said about the link between movie choice and a person’s psychology but the discussion did get me thinking:

If your life were like a movie, what kind of move would it be like? Would it be ‘plot’ or ‘character’ driven? Or something else?

Do you see it as an exciting, thrill-seeking, roller coaster of a ride? Like something starring Liam Neeson or Dwayne Johnson?

Or is it one where the characters within it are more at the forefront? One that contains an array of interesting and deep personalities…

And do you find that your preference of films in anyway reflects your personality and outlook on life?

For me, my choice of movies definitely resembles some of my life preferences and thinking styles. In general, I’m quite reflective, philosophical, and above all, utterly fascinated by people.

There’s something I find obsessively intoxicating about human behaviour and interaction. It’s been there since I can remember and I don’t think it’s going away anytime soon. It’s no wonder really that I like deeper, character driven stories.

I also like “difference, “uniqueness”, and I tend get bored quite easily when I see the same thing done over and over again in a similar, formulaic way.
So you’ve probably guessed I’m not a big super-hero movie fan - Well, actually, I did love the film “Logan” but, surprisingly enough, it’s highly character driven.

My aforementioned friend is starkly different. He goes more for fast plot, action and all-powerful heroes that have a drive for significance. If it’s character driven then it’s too slow for him. He doesn’t get it. If something hasn’t been blow up within 5 minutes then he starts checking his phone. Interestingly enough, he’s not the most people oriented person and seems to constantly look for ways to show off his significance.

There’s no right or wrong, of course, just different ways of experiencing the world.

We could even expand this a little bit further and ask, “If your life was a style of movie, what style would that be?”

A comedy? A rom-com? A thriller? A thoughtful drama? A work of Fantasy?

I certainly hope it’s not a disaster movie!

And what, if anything, might that say about the way you currently view life?

I’m not suggesting that this is some kind of pinpoint, accurate psychoanalysis but it is an interesting thing to reflect on, especially if an obvious pattern starts to emerge.

It might also be useful to look at it in the other direction: what would happen if you changed the types of movies that you watched? What if you were to start watching films that were starkly different to those you currently watch?

Would that then have an effect on the way you experienced the world? Might it broaden your perspective? Do you think it could open up areas of your experience that you weren’t aware of before?

Personally, I think it would.

If you ask any storyteller or film director worth their salt they will tell you that a good film is not just meant to entertain: it’s meant to expand the viewers mind. It’s one of the – often hidden – underlying purposes of cinema.

One of the most bizarre films I’ve ever seen in the cinema is called “The Tribe”. It’s a Ukrainian film set in a school for deaf children. The entire movie had no dialogue. All the characters used Ukrainian signal language to communicate, and there were no subtitles – which I only found out 5 minutes before it started.

It’s not exactly the kind of film you’d expect to see at the top of the blockbuster list but it was absorbing. I left feeling like my world had been expanded a little.

Okay, maybe my taste in films is shit. Most likely by most mainstream standards anyway. But, the thing is, I don’t consider myself to be a ‘mainstream type guy’ anyway, and I’m not sure I want to be…and that’s kind of the point.

Hmm, interesting…Freud would likely have a field day.


So if your life were a movie, what kind of movie would it be?


And what would it be like if you expanded your choice and looked beyond?



All the Best,

Steven Burns
NLP Trainer, Coach & Hypnotherapist

Owen Fitzpatrick Tedx Talk – How to win the war in your head

September 19th, 2017

This is NLP Master Practitioner, Owen Fitzpatrick’s Tedx talk. It’s very unique, funny and insightful.

We think it’s well worth a watch:

Enjoy and please do leave some comments!



Owen is going to be coming to Glasgow in November to deliver his ‘Story Telling Mastery’ Course. You can find out more information via this link:


Story Telling Mastery with Owen Fitzpatrick




The Sarcastic Series – How to have really low self confidence by Owen Fitzpatrick

September 13th, 2017

Okay, a quick disclaimer. This video is obviously not MEANT to help you have really low self confidence – hence why it’s called the sarcastic series! :-)

It’s a playful and funny way to present some very useful and insightful information about confidence. We find it very creative and, also, highly useful. We hope you enjoy it too:



We have the pleasure of Owen’s company in November when he comes over to Glasgow to present his wonderful 3 day workshop on the subject of story-telling.

For more info on this workshop, please get in touch via our contact form.


The SCNLP team


Dare to Be Yourself…

September 10th, 2017


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I’ve heard the phrase ‘be yourself’ more than anything else in the world of communication and self-improvement. What does it mean? Is it even possible? In this post I want to explore the term, what I believe it means and how I believe it can be done.


Over the years, I’ve had a couple of haters. People get an idea into their head about who you are and what you stand for. This idea is cultivated inside their head and has nothing to do with you. Sometimes people who love you do the same thing. They position you as the ideal guy or girl.


I’ve had this experience a few times as well. People read Facebook, watch videos or see me in a training and develop an opinion. Sometimes it is that I’m arrogant and sometimes humble. I do my best to cultivate the right kind of impression of course but I do not have any control over what they think. All I can do is ‘be myself’ and show the best side of me to the world.


Recently, I’ve spent quite a lot of time introspecting and asking myself who I am. Maybe it is my age but I’m beginning to really try and pin point the real me. For two thirds of my life, I’ve been involved in the field of personal development and NLP.


Where do my ‘NLP self’ and my ‘personal self’ separate? How are they different? What about with different people and different crowds? I act differently in different situations.


Does this mean I fake it?


After considering all of these things, I finally have an answer. Just as people get an idea into their head about who you are, you get an idea into your own head as to who you are. This idea might be influenced by your mood at the time or something that has happened in your life lately. Whichever it is, it’s important to realise that this perception isn’t wrong or right… it is just a perception. What matters is what you decide to do about it.


What I mean by this is that I believe you need to decide who you are first and foremost. This is the critical first step that many people miss because they are trying to ‘find’ who they are. We are not stagnant, unchanging vessels. We are continuously growing, changing and developing.


This means that we are always moving in one direction of another. My mentor, Richard Bandler, always says that people are either getting better or they are getting worse. When considering how you are doing, understand that you need to decide who you are before you can actually be that person. When you are and when you do then you will get better.


In deciding who you are, you need to be open to what makes you tick. People change careers. They leave relationships. They start a family. They go travelling for a year. All of these are the big life choices that we make in our attempts to live a happier and more fulfilling life which makes our world better.


Being yourself means understanding your flaws, good points, your preferences and the things that make you excited. It means taking all of that and then deciding who you are with all of these qualities.


Once you have decided who you are and aligned it with your qualities and flaws, the next step is to stay in the moment. My closest friends have a good sense of who I am. They have seen me at my best and at my worst. They have been there when I was crushed and devastated and when I was elated and excited.


When I am with them I am me primarily because I am not trying to be me. Instead, I am fully in the moment with them focusing on where we are and what we are doing. I’m not on Facebook or Instagram trying to position myself in a certain way. Instead, I am open to show them my soul because they have earned it.


Lastly, the biggest struggle most people have when trying to be themselves is the fear that they will be rejected or abandoned or that they will be not good enough. Here is the reality. I’ve been left by people in the past. People I loved, desperately, badly. But they did not leave me because I wasn’t good enough or they found someone better. They left me because their feelings changed. It wasn’t about me. It was their feelings. It crushed me but it wasn’t about me. Knowing this meant that I can continue to love them with all my heart even if they are no longer in my life. They will always be special to me. That will never change.


I have so many flaws but I have so many good qualities and the people who remain in my life are aware of them all and choose to stay regardless. This means that I am good enough and always will be.


You are good enough and you always will be. Decide who you are. Understand yourself better. Immerse yourself in experiences with your friends and open yourself to others knowing that you are good enough.


All the best,

Owen Fitzpatrick

NLP Master Trainer

One of your most important relationships…

December 28th, 2016




I remember one of my early NLP mentors tell me that: “you never want to be entirely comfortable in life”. His comment surprised me. At the time, I thought comfort was a pretty good goal: get to the stage in life where you were comfortable; have very little in the way of uncomfortable or unpleasant emotions. Surely that was one of the main goals of being able to master your thinking, your emotions, your life?


Well, perhaps…


Fast forward 16 years, and i’m standing in front of an extremely intimidating looking BBC standard camera stumbling and stuttering through a story that i’ve told with relative ease to live audiences close to a hundred times.


I’d been asked to record a training course with a fellow colleague in a studio and, i have to say, the level of challenge it was presenting had taken me by surprise. What would normally have been a simple explanation, had been transformed by the camera lens into a challenge akin to running a marathon; 5 minutes on camera suddenly felt like 45 minutes! Emotional state management? Huh…it was all over the place.


Out. Of. Comfort. Zone.


The 4 words that best described my experience.


In the background of my experience though, 4 distinctly different words could also be heard:


Exactly. What. You. Need.


It’s true, in the foreground it didn’t feel good – in fact, it felt pretty awful – but somewhere in the distance a more important voice was silently being heard. A voice relaying a simple but profound message:


That the discomfort was only temporary, but the gains from the experience would be permanent.


So how is your own relationship with comfort? What happens when you move out of it? Or when it disappears completely? When you’re thrown, pulled, dragged, or voluntarily step out of your comfort zone, even if it’s only temporary. Do you thrive? Feel a sense of excitement? Or do you melt faster than a blancmange in a microwave?


Maybe you don’t even get that far…perhaps you’ve become so adept at organising life around the avoidance of discomfort that you rarely go out of your comfort zone…


I think the relationship you have with comfort is an absolutely essential one when it comes to your personal development, your chances of success, and your on-going sense of fulfilment in life.


One of the primary things I’ve noticed over the years that stops people from taking the kind of action they need to take, is the belief that things always need to feel all nice & good before they start; that they need to be entirely comfortable with the situation before it can proceed; and that they need to be fully ready and prepared to make it possible for them to do what they want to do.


When you get down to it though, most of the time, due to the organic nature of life, it rarely works out that way. It’s in the wrong order for a start. It’s generally the experience of doing something that makes us fully ready, not the readiness that creates the experience.


Sure, you can manage these discomfort levels so that they don’t overwhelm you, and there are many things you can do to help you prepare as much as you can, whatever your goal, but at some point there will inevitably be a threshold you will have to cross – or, of course, be pulled over kicking, spitting and screaming. 


If you’re going to do something meaningful, it will provide challenge. You will be judged, stretched, thrown into new situations, and hence, by default, you are going to be out of your depth; out of your comfort zone.


Sure, it’s going to be uncomfortable to a certain degree, but if you roll with it, welcome the discomfort in as if it’s some kind of kind of twisted, masochistic friend, then you can start to appreciate the meaning it offers in the long term; the worthwhile and long-lasting purpose it fits into.



I guess, for me, this was the message behind the silent but powerful voice that was echoing away in the background of my experience, accompanied by a nostalgic memory of my early mentor lecturing me on the usefulness of discomfort.


I now happen to mostly agree with him: I still love my comfort zone – come on, it feels so nice! – but you must definitely don’t won’t to max out on it; you don’t want to become dependant on it like some kind of narcotic. Discomfort is, in fact, actually a resource. It has a vital part to play in the overall game of successful living.


It might seem like it at the time, but the discomfort we feel when we step out of our natural habitat is not our enemy. It’s one of the pre-requisites of doing something meaningful; a sign that you are stepping into unknown territory and having some kind of new and potentially enriching experience.


When we make this shift in our thinking, the act of moving out of our comfort zone can start to look – and feel – a whole lot different. All of sudden, the discomfort we feel in these situations can be seen as the resource it is; a vital cog in the machine that makes up part of the journey towards the achievement of our goals, dreams and visions. Something to be welcomed rather than treated as parasite that has to be controlled.


That way, we can work toward one of the most ‘resource rich’ places I think we can be as human beings: being comfortable with the uncomfortable… 


I know this sounds like an impossible paradox but i do think it’s possible: you can feel uncomfortable in the moment when you do something, but because you appreciate how worthwhile it could potentially be in the long run, how it fits in within the greater scheme of things, this discomfort becomes mixed in with lots of other more productive emotions.


We don’t have to get completely lost in one emotion. Emotions can – and i think they mostly do – work in a more nested structure; linking together in a complex network that allows us to appreciate what feeling bad, temporarily, can do for us at a greater level.


It’s a bit like fairly recently when I was attempting to beat my personal best for a 10K run. Around about the 6K mark, every part of my body-mind was telling me to stop…but I kept running…in fact, I sped up…In that moment, I was experiencing quite considerable discomfort but, at some level, I knew that the discomfort was part of a greater plan; part of a system that included emotions that were of far greater importance to my fulfilment than that short period of discomfort. For me this is one example of what it’s like to be comfortable with the uncomfortable.


So as we start moving rather rapidly towards 2017, what kind of relationship will you choose to have with your comfort zone? For it’s vitally important. Your success, happiness & levels of fulfilment rely on it.


How comfortable do you plan on being comfortable with? And also how much discomfort do you plan on being comfortable with? Not discomfort for the sake of being a total masochistic, but the kind that plays a small part in something more profound; something worthwhile and ultimately fulfilling.


The choice, of course, is yours to make…


All the best,


Steven Burns

The Scottish Centre of NLP


De-cluttering isn’t just for cupboards!

March 22nd, 2016

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A couple of months ago, in the spirit of the New Year being an opportunity to make some changes, I joined a group dedicated to de-cluttering your home.  As with most things, I’ve thrown myself wholeheartedly into it and cleared out huge amounts of “stuff” that was cluttering up our cupboards and preventing me from putting away things that were lying around in various rooms because there was no space to store them.


Before I started this, I hadn’t actually realised how much pain and stress I had been feeling just by owning so many of those items and it made me wonder what had been behind those feelings.  What were my thoughts about those inanimate objects that could cause me to feel physical discomfort when I thought about letting them go?


As I delved a bit deeper, I realised that I had been holding onto some things through guilt – particularly gifts that I’d been given and items that had belonged to deceased family members.  The feelings were particularly strong if I knew that the people who had given me the items struggled financially and that it may have added to their hardship to spend the money on me.


Of course, I don’t actually know that to be true – those were just the thoughts in my head and I was obviously indulging in a bit of mindreading.


I realised it was also linked to some of the attitudes I learned whilst growing up in a family that didn’t have much to spare once we were fed, clothed and the bills paid so I was also projecting a bit of that background onto those “things” and the people I got them from.


The point is, it wasn’t real – it was all just my thoughts!


What I began to find during the process of clearing out was that the more stuff I let go, the better I began to feel and the easier it became.  Lots of the items were given away free, some were sold and some were donated to charity shops. Other things went straight in the bin because they were no longer useful (single chopstick anyone?).  There were many items that carried fond memories for me too, but I had no use for the thing itself and for these I found it helpful to take a photograph so that I could look at the picture to remind me of that person or event and then let the item go for someone else to enjoy.  Keep the memory, ditch the pain became my mantra!


So often our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves are just like those belongings that I had kept; they’re of no real use to us but we keep them around anyway.  One of the many things I love about NLP is that it helps us to open up those cupboards in our minds, clear the shelves and only put back the stuff that we really want to keep.  It also helps us to make space on the shelves for new, more resourceful thought patterns that will help us to move forward instead of keeping us rooted in the past.


I’m curious about what’s cluttering up the space in your mind-cupboards too.  What unhelpful beliefs are holding you back and keeping you rooted in the past instead of letting you spread your wings and soar into your future?  Is there an area in your mind that’s like the “cupboard of doom” where you don’t want to open the door because the entire contents are likely to bury you under an emotional avalanche?  Are there tins and packets in there that expired in 2003 but you’re still holding onto them because you don’t know how to let go?


In NLP we have so many ways to help you to resolve those inner conflicts, clear out those limiting beliefs and keep the good memories whilst letting go of the burdens that are keeping you tethered where you are now.  Just imagine what that will be like.


When you decide you’re ready to de-clutter those mind cupboards I’ll be ready to get the Marigolds on, bring out the Mr Muscle and the rubbish bags and get stuck in alongside you.


All the best!



Attack of the Russian Models…

December 14th, 2015



I think most people would agree with me that, these days, the pressure to look a certain way can be insufferable at times. Men need to be ripped bearded Anodises and women fall into one of two categories: the Victoria’s Secret model or the Kardashian.

Not only do women’s bodies need to be both toned and curve in all the right places but we need to have flawless skin, long flowing hair (lots of it), long dark eyelashes and the perfect pout and eyebrows.

Now thanks to the miracles of cosmetics and the wide spread fitness craze that has swept the country in the past few years, this is not entirely unattainable, but it does take a lot of time and effort.

If it is important to you, you will make it a priority…but what happens if we are not able to put in this time and effort? Or if life gets in the way? Should we be cast out of society as an undesirable never to be seen in public and only to be photographed with numerous filters on our photos to hide the flaws that do not fit in with today’s crazy ideals of beauty?

Ok I am exaggerating, but the point I am trying to make is that if we do not fit in with today’s photo-shopped ideals of perfection, we can be left feeling inadequate and bad about ourselves, which is, when you really think about it, ridiculous!

Recently, i know, that this pressure has increased for me. I am currently out in China on a dance contract for 5 months. I ended up doing some work with a group of Russian and Ukrainian dancers/models and, since I have been working with them, I have been getting constant stick about my body.

Like most other females, my weight fluctuates: I have days where I feel fatter and days where I feel skinnier but I eat healthy, exercise frequently and allow myself treats too.

My body is by no means perfect, I have parts that could be more toned or smaller and there are things that I am working on, but for the most part I am happy with my body. I’m a size 8 and I try to stay in good shape but unfortunately that shape is bigger than the girls I have been working with.

Even if I lost every once of fat on my body, I would still probably be bigger than most of them; they just have smaller frames than I do.

I kept being told I had to “tighten my meat” but to get a body like theirs it would take drastic measures. I have a completely different body type/shape from them and to change this isn’t something that can happen over night, but the people in charge just didn’t seem to understand this.

It did start to really get to me as I was doing everything I could and my body was changing slightly but I was finding myself constantly scrutinizing my body.

One of the defining moments for me happened as we were walking towards the stage, minutes before we were about to perform a show in Beijing in front of hundreds of people. One of the agents walking behind me, poked the back fat/skin I had hanging over a costume that was about 3 sizes too small (Russian model size) and said “You don’t go to the gym?”.

Now I had 3 choices: I was either going to burst into tears, turn around and lamp her in the face or just keep walking. It would probably make for a more interesting story if I had turned around and punched her but I didn’t, I just kept walking.

It was bad enough having to perform in a costume that was uncomfortable and unflattering in front of all of those people but to be prodded and have my “flaws” highlighted in front of everyone was more than I could take at that point. The only reason I didn’t start sobbing was because I was angry, I couldn’t believe they were making me feel like this.

At that point, in the 6 weeks I had been in China I had had 1 day off. The other days consisted of going to the gym, rehearsals and 2 performances each night. I most definitely did not need to go to the gym any more than I was and at that point I decided that was enough.

I wasn’t going to let it bother me any more or fixate on the parts of my body that were not “perfect”. Ok I don’t look how they want me to and there were parts of my body I would like to change but that doesn’t affect my ability to do the job I was being paid to do, so I went on and danced my “larger”, imperfect ass off, not to prove a point to them but to prove a point to myself and remember why I was there, doing what I was doing,

I have so much more to offer than just a “perfect” body. It may sound cheesy but beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone’s idea of what looks good is different so it is really only what you think of yourself that matters. If there are things you want to change then work to change them but don’t give yourself a hard time in the mean time.

Working in this industry, I’ve met so many girls with amazing bodies that would still change something about themselves, or have parts that they are not happy with. They end up wasting so much of their time and energy stressing or feeling bad about these “flaws”.

If you are always focusing on the parts of you that you don’t like, those are the parts you are always going to see. Instead why not see yourself as a whole and focus on the parts of yourself that you do like. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Who cares if you don’t have Kim Kardashian’s ass, Cara Delevine’s eyebrows or Miranda Kerr’s abs, I assure you, you have something to offer. Why not focus on your strengths and embrace your weaknesses; or rather what you deem to be weaknesses. Our “flaws” make us who we are too.

So the next time you are surrounded by Russian models, or feeling the pressure of trying to attain “perfection” remember these 5 things:


1. There is so much more to who you are than just how you look, see yourself as a whole.

2. There is no such thing as perfection, everyone is human and has strengths and weaknesses, admirable traits and flaws, don’t beat yourself up over your “weaknesses”, we all have them.

3. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I assure you there are people out there who would see what you deem to be a flaw as beautiful.

4. If there is something you really want to change, that is making you unhappy, then work to change it. There are loads of useful, healthy ways to change your body or mind set or skill set and loads of people who can help you get to where you want to be, so do something about it. (Keep your eyes peeled for my next articles for some useful tips on motivation and goal setting)

5. Most importantly, YOU HAVE PLENTY TO OFFER and YOU HAVE STRENGTHS! If you are feeling like crap about yourself list them. Focus on the parts you do like instead of the parts you don’t.


This is the only body you have so be proud of it and look after it. Me and my perfectly “imperfect” body will continue to wow audiences in China regardless of anyone else’s views on it.. ;)

All the best



Would you pay interest on money you haven’t borrowed?

October 23rd, 2015

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Author: Allison Sutherland, NLP Coach. For more information on Allison or click here


No?  I wouldn’t either.  In fact, nobody in their right mind would do that – it’s crazy!  It’s just like spending lots of time and energy on worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet and might never come to pass.  Isn’t it?


Don’t get me wrong, we do need to prepare ourselves for future situations such as interviews or difficult conversations.  It would be silly not to, but what I’m talking about isn’t planning; it’s just worrying.  I’m talking about when we go round in circles asking “what if” again and again without actually deciding what to do.

Take a moment now to honestly consider how much time you spend worrying about what might happen tomorrow, next week, next month or next year.   If you’re completely honest with yourself you might be surprised at how much time and energy you waste on such a fruitless activity.  I’ll wait a moment while you let that sink in …

As you’re thinking about that, you might also want to consider that your brain doesn’t know the difference between something that’s really happening, something that you’re watching (i.e. a film) or something you’re imagining.  When you spend time worrying you trigger exactly the same physical responses in your body that you would get if it was actually happening.

So, as you’re imagining that difficult conversation or potential bad news  your body is releasing cortisol (stress hormone) and possibly adrenaline, triggering your fight or flight response, suppressing your immune system and generally just messing up your physical health.  If you tend to be a worrier, there’s a high chance that you are doing this to your body a lot of the time.  Is that what you want?  How much interest have you paid on that non-existent money already?

The good news is that there are ways to stop this cycle and train your mind to find better things to do with your time and energy.  If you’re wondering how, read on!


So how do I stop?

The first trick to learn is identifying those unhelpful thoughts.  You can practice this by exploring some of the common thoughts you have.  Maybe they go something like this:

“Oh no, I might have to speak to him tomorrow and he might be in a bad mood and say something about “that thing” and then I might get upset.  Maybe I just won’t bother going.”

“What if I get made redundant?  What will I do?  Could I get another job?  What if I can’t?  OMG I’ll end up losing the house and I’ll be homeless and won’t be able to feed myself …”

“I’ve got that interview tomorrow.  What if they ask me something and I can’t answer the question?  I’m going to look stupid and then I’ll screw the whole thing up.  It will be a total disaster.”

Did you notice that those thoughts are full of what ifs and maybes?  None of it is fact, it’s all just speculation and building things up out of all proportion.

Once you’re able to identify when you’re catastrophising like this, it is easier to take control of those thoughts and to question their validity.  You can start to ask yourself what facts the thoughts are based on; how likely it is that these things will happen; where is the proof; and whether it’s even your problem to worry about.  Challenge your mind to prove to you why these things are even worth considering.


Develop strategies

If you do decide that there is a valid reason behind those thoughts, develop strategies for what you’ll do if it does come to fruition.  Let’s use potential redundancy as an example.  There are many ways that you could devise strategies so that you are prepared for any outcome that you can imagine.

Maybe you could choose to look at the job market to see what options are available; perhaps you could submit your CV to some agencies and let them do the legwork; when they offer interviews you can decide which ones to attend; if you do go for interviews it’s then up to you to choose whether you accept any job offers.

By taking these actions you will be able to stop worrying because you’ll know what job options you’ll have.  Other things you could do include reviewing your household budget and identifying where savings can be made; looking at alternative housing to see what’s available; looking at jobs closer to home to reduce travel costs.  There are always options that can be considered, even if they’re not perfect it’s still better to have alternatives to fall back on.


But I’m not being made redundant so this doesn’t apply to me

Great!  In that case, think about what areas of your life you DO feel anxious about, identify those “what if” thoughts, challenge them and think of strategies you can put in place.  You can decide how you will handle all sorts of things that we fret about such as health, relationships and money.  By taking time to think through some strategies for your “what ifs” you will feel much more in control.


Strategies provide calm!

Now that you have your plans in place, take a moment to assess how much better it feels to know that if one of these events happens you know how you’re going to deal with it.  Notice how much calmer your mind is now that it has plans instead of worries.

If you find that you’re still struggling to do this on your own, it might help to talk it through with a trusted friend or family member.  Of course, if you want completely impartial assistance it will be worth investing in some coaching to help you focus and find the strategies that will really work for you.

Whatever you choose to do, choose now to stop paying interest on that money you never even borrowed.


All the best,




Making Life Extraordinary…

August 20th, 2015


Author: Hayley McGhie – NLP Master Practitioner and Yoga instructor; for more info on Hayley, click here.



What makes the difference between living an ordinary life and an extraordinary one?


I sat behind a desk for 15 years providing administrative duties. Many people that crossed my path over the years would tell me that I was wasted behind a desk; I should be doing something different. I would often think they were right but I never felt very strongly about it.


Back in my younger days I lived for the weekend. I mean: what more was there to life than being surrounding with friends, dancing the night to day and laughing my head off until the hangover kicked in.

Then boom, in 2013 I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease.


In the months that followed, I went through frustrating hospital visits, days lost lying in bed, and found it unbearable facing friends, and life, in general. I started searching for answers. A friend gave me a loan of a book called: ‘Anatomy of the spirit’ by Caroline Myss and I realised that the answer was simple but not exactly easy to take on board: I had to take responsibility for my own life.

The thought of responsibility may not have you bursting with excitement right now but stay with me…take a few moments and imagine the life you dream of and the person you desire to become…see yourself, like you are watching yourself on a YouTube clip…notice what you see, hear and what you are doing. Is it different than what you are currently doing now?


By taking responsibility, this could be the key to helping you make that YouTube clip become reality.

There are many ways to start taking responsibility:


* Be honest with yourself: decide to no longer blame situations and other people for things that have happened.

* Learn from your experiences: instead of feeling sorry for yourself; focus on solutions rather than on the problems.

* Be aware of the choices you make: ask yourself, ‘will this take me closer to my dream?’

* Make a decision: it doesn’t matter if it’s yes or no; as long as you remain flexible in your approach you’ll move forward.

* Realise you can take control of your future: make goals and once you achieve them feel free to make more!

* You have the power to choose how you want to feel at any time: one simple way is to think back to a time you felt that way, intensify the feeling, ramp it right up!

* Don’t judge yourself or beat yourself up for the past: it’s made you the person you are today; you are doing the best you can with the resources you have at the present time.

* Decide today that you are your no 1 priority: family and friends will understand.  If they don’t they may not be a supporting role in your life. The ones that do they will love to spend time with the best version of you.


Reflecting back it makes me smile when I remember everything that has happen as a result of my decision to take responsibility: this year I became a full-time self employed holistic coach with my own practice; over the years I’ve trained and studied consistently in NLP and yoga, along with energy healing; I’ve become a qualified seasonal Vinyasa flow yoga teacher; giving up my office job, I followed my passion for Bikram yoga and trained to become a Bikram Hot Yoga teacher. After 9 weeks of much sweat, blood and tears, in Thailand, I transformed into the strongest version of me I’ve ever seen staring back in the mirror.


The last 12 months have serious pushed me to live outside my comfort zone and I’m finding myself continually learning and developing. I’m becoming a better and more true version of myself.


It’s not been an easy ride by any stretch of the means; 110% determination has most definitely been required. The best part is, now I get to help others; to help guide them as they take responsibility for their health and their own life. I love being part of their journey and to see the amazing results they achieve, as they start living a life with purpose. To me I’m living an extraordinary life, I’m not perfect by a long shot – and don’t think I ever will be. I’m not financially wealthy (yet!) but my life is filled with all kinds of wealth that money can’t buy.

We all have the power to become the person we want to be, and live the life we dream of. Teachers will cross our path and help us along the way. Shine your light and know that you are capable of living an extraordinary life whatever that may mean for you.


All the best,




What if David Beckham had decided to be a train driver?

July 24th, 2015

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Author: Allison Sutherland – NLP Coach & Therapist; for more info on Allison click here.


Could you imagine what it would be like if Andy Murray had chosen a career in public relations or David Beckham had decided to be a train driver?  I’m sure they’d both have given it a good shot, but I’m not so sure Andy would be great at press releases or media conferences or that David would be happy in a solitary job like driving a train.


What these guys have done with their lives is play to their strengths.  Andy Murray is talented, hard-working, dedicated and single minded about his sport (but not brilliant at interviews), whilst David Beckham is equally talented, hard-working and dedicated as well as being sociable and a great team player (and much better at interviews).  I wonder what it would be like for those guys if they had chosen careers where those strengths weren’t required and I can only imagine how miserable they would probably feel.


Just like Andy and David, we all have strengths as well as weaknesses and it’s often easy to focus on the negatives and forget the positives.  Do you know what your strengths are?  I know that three of my top character strengths are kindness, honesty and gratitude so being a coach and NLP practitioner allows me to use those strengths to help my clients – and I’m grateful for that.


On the other hand, criminal law would have been a very poor career choice for me as I’d have been faced with people committing acts of cruelty and dishonesty which would have posed a challenge to my main strengths on a daily basis, just as David Beckham being stuck in a train cab for 8 hours a day would have challenged his strength as a team player.


Life is less satisfying when we have to live in ways that challenge our core strengths and values.  For example, think of someone who is really creative and loves to let their imagination run riot – now imagine they have a career or a home life where everything has to be done in rigid routine and fixed processes.  How miserable would that creative person be?


When you think about your day to day life, are there things that don’t quite seem right?  What situations or people really “grate” on you? It could be that your core strengths or values are challenged by these situations or people and that’s why they make you uncomfortable, sad or even downright upset.  So do you actually know what your strengths are?  Think now about what makes you tick, what you enjoy doing, and how those things fit with character strengths like honesty, kindness, prudence, humour, love of learning, humility, perseverance, teamwork, creativity or zest for life.


Now imagine what life would be like if you could live it in ways that play to your strengths.  Imagine how satisfying that would be.  Often we fall into the trap of thinking that a job or a life situation is just the way it is and we can’t change it – that may be true about the job or the situation, but it isn’t true about us.  If you’re able to identify your strengths, then you will be able to find ways to do the job or get through the situations by making use of those same strengths.


But life isn’t just all about what you’re best at – your weaknesses can also be great assets.  If creativity is really low on your list of strengths you’re probably good at applying routines and processes.  If teamwork is low on your list of strengths then you might just thrive in a job where you get to work on your own and shine on your own merit.  Just by looking at it from a different perspective, your weaknesses can become strengths.


Looking back at Andy Murray and David Beckham, despite their very different sports and personalities, something they have in common is that they both have coaches.  Their coaches have helped them to focus on their strengths and build up on their weaker areas until they’ve excelled in their chosen fields.


Coaching isn’t just for top athletes or top business leaders – it’s for anyone who wants to improve or change their current situation, or get better at what they do, and doesn’t quite know how.  Whether it’s a career change, fitness, business or any other goal, a coach will help you to focus on what it is you want to achieve, your motives for wanting it, how you’re going to get there and what you’re going to do once you get it.


So, if you’ve taken a career as a train driver instead of a Premiership footballer, why not book a session with a coach and get started on playing to your strengths?


All the best,




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