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Archive for January, 2013

Being Congruent — Lance Armstrong

Monday, January 21st, 2013

 

Just finished watching the Lance Armstrong interview with Oprah.end_g_lance-armstrong_mb_576

 

I’m really curious what people thought of it and the full ‘Lance coming out’ thing.

 

Personally, at the same time as feeling really sorry for the people Lance trampled on over the years to cover up his lie, I couldn’t help but get some kind of strange pleasure watching it.

 

I found it totally mesmerizing and fascinating how someone could keep hold of a lie for so long (and actually sue those who said anything to the contrary).

 

I don’t think I’ve ever experienced that level of self deception on such a public scale before.

 

They showed footage of a previous interview where he spoke out against doping and he was SCARILY convincing…It was amazing the extent he managed to believe his own lies.

 

What I didn’t find as convincing was his apology on Oprah.

 

In NLP we have something called ‘congruence’. Congruence is basically when our body language, voice tone and intention match the content of what we are saying.

 

Incongruence is where we say something that mis-matches what we feel on the inside and it becomes obvious through our non-verbals and ways of expressing.

 

The only time I saw any real congruence in his interview was when he either talked about how it had affected his kids or when he occasionally let slip that he believed he had to dope because ‘everyone else was doing it.’

 

For me, the apology for doping and the decade of deceit was a pretty blatant example of someone ‘just saying something because they think it’s what they are supposed to say’.

 

Personally, I don’t think he really meant it.

 

It was a bit like a kid being made to apologise for stealing his sisters toys. He doesn’t really mean it and he’s only doing it to get some supper and stay up a bit later.

 

I don’t know how much later Lance will be able to stay up but the whole episode has been disturbingly engaging…

Steve

 

What is your Super Power?

Thursday, January 17th, 2013

 

My friend Julz once said to me that everyone, by virtue of their life experiences and genetic make-up, are set up in a way to be a genius in something.

 

To do something or learn to do something with such exquisite skill and beauty that people believe it to be a god given talent. Some find this early in life and nurture it, some later on while many either don’t realise they do it or allow it to sit dormant in the background going to waste.

 

I love this idea and totally subscribe to it. It makes complete sense to me. We are all unique organisms in the world after all so it makes utter sense to me that we all possess a ‘special talent’ that no-one else does.

 

I’m on Netflix now and I’ve become a bit of a ‘TV Series’ junky. One of my favourites is ‘Heroes’. The 2nd and 3rd series were a big disappointment but the 1st was, for me, sublime story heroes_casttelling.

 

If you’ve never seen it, the premise is fairly simple.

 

A group of apparently un-connected people all of a sudden start displaying mysterious super natural talents. Some have super strength, others can hack into computers and some can fly.

 

As the series goes on they all start to realise that they are, in fact, connected and have their own special part to play in saving New York from a nuclear explosion and impending post-apocalyptic doom.

 

You’ll probably laugh at this but when I first watched Heroes, for some reason, it touched me deep inside. It resonated in ways I can’t quite describe. Initially I thought it was just amazing TV but then I realised it was much more than that.

 

It affected me at a level way beyond entertainment.

 

Then I realised what it was…

 

I realise that it was the premise the show was based on…

 

The premise that, as humans we all have a hidden unique gift that no-one else has that can make a difference to the world…one that makes us ‘special’ and ‘remarkable’.

 

You don’t have to be a Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerberg and change the world through innovations like the internet or Facebook, you just have to tap into and nurture your own special, unique talent.

 

Seeing that told with such finesse in Heroes was seriously enough to nearly move me to tears.

 

You might not even know what your unique talent is yet but I’m sure you feel it. It’s there at some level buried deep inside. It might seem illusive but I know at some level you can sense it.

 

You may even have a pretty good idea what it is and have already started developing it consciously. It can often be one of those things where, you’re not exactly sure why you do it and other people might not understand, but it just feels so damn good and fits with your personality that you can’t stop.

 

Perhaps it even feels like a bit of an obsession but it’s a wonderful one.

 

It’s also something that can often be indescribable. It can be the kind of thing that, when you attempt to define it, it doesn’t do it any justice. As soon as you do it seems to lose a bit of its true essence.

 

I knew a guy many years ago who, in hindsight, I now recognise had serious social problems and was most likely somewhere on the autism scale.

 

Put any kind of machinery in front of him, though, and he could strip it down tell you what each of the parts did and then build it back up again without any assistance, training or drawings.

 

To my knowledge he now works for Mercedes building Aeroplane engines. Apparently he’s a genius, the best at what he does…just don’t ask him to talk to anyone.

 

We can’t be brilliant at everything but I’m convinced we all have ‘a genius’.

 

What’s yours? What’s your Super Power?ChampTheSuperHero

 

Even if you can’t quite describe it, I’m sure it’s been gnawing away at you for a while now.

 

If I were you I’d let it sink its teeth into you. Embrace it. Let it engulf you.

 

Maybe even someone else remarked on it when you felt you were just ‘doing what you do’.

 

Your close friends and family can sometimes be more perceptive than you when it comes to recognising your talents and gifts.

 

After all we are the heroes of our own journey and every hero must learn to recognise and nurture their own unique talent.

 

In most myths and stories the heroes who do not will perish…the ones who do overcome the challenges and trials to claim the golden Elixir.

 

Take Care

Steven

 

Paul McKenna Depressed

Thursday, January 17th, 2013

 

Just finished watching Paul Mckenna on BBC Breakfast promote his new book ‘Hypnotic Gastric Band’. I’m really not much of a fan of the whole hypnotic Gastric band thing but that wasn’t what I found interesting.

 

He talked openly about the fact he’s been depressed the last couple of years following the death of his father (and his dog).

 

He looked more than a little edgy and the interviewer suggested that, the fact he was depressed, wasn’t the best advert for him and his field.

 

I can understand why a lot of people might think this but personally I think it’s a really good advert. It’s nice to see a guru not hiding behind their celebrity mask and the perception of impenetrability they’ve built.

 

It’s a risky move for him…especially because he did come across a little ‘manic’ and clearly still has some work to do on himself but it must of taken a hell of a lot of courage given the image he’s built up.

 

One of his lines, for me, said it all. He said:

 

“People call me a guru and that worries me…I’ve got problems like everybody else, it’s all a learning process”

 

I wonder what worried him…the fact people think he’s a guru or that he’s been so boxed in by public perception that he hasn’t been able to talk about and deal with his problems.

 

I’m betting on the later…

 

NLP and hypnosis are amazing for self improvement and helping you resolve some light and very deep issues…In my experience it’s absolutely the best out there. (and I’ve tried some really weird stuff!)

 

It doesn’t turn you into a robot though…

 

You still have problems, the main difference is that NLP & Hypnosis give you a way out of them…Sometimes this happens quickly other times there’s a deeper message for you to find and it takes a bit of time and exploration.

 

It also gives you a way to evolve so that you have a ‘higher quality of problems’. I don’t think you ever want to be completely ‘problem free’.

 

As Paul said problems are how we learn and grow…I couldn’t agree more.

 

So all the best Paul…I don’t like your hypnotic Gastric Band and don’t think I’ll be buying your book but I do have a lot of respect for you.

 

Steven