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Archive for February, 2013

Beginners Guide to Modelling with NLP Part One – Myths of Modelling

Tuesday, February 26th, 2013

Modelling (not catwalk modelling:-)) has to be one of the most underutilised skills in the field of NLP. I think because of how effective the techniques are in NLP modelling often gets forgotten.

It seems to be rapidly changing into some lost treasure hidden in a far far away land in a far far away time. Something that was once hailed as magnificent and enchanting but is now becoming a bit of a fading memory and lost art.

This is a HUGE shame as modelling, in my opinion, is one of the most useful skill sets you can develop.

Modelling is essential a way of ‘mapping out’ how a person does something and then using this map to either learn this ‘something’ for yourself or teach someone else to do it in a fraction of the time it would normally take.
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Your Confidence plays hide and seek with you…

Wednesday, February 20th, 2013

Hide-and-Seek-521x265Are you aware that your Confidence has been playing hide and seek with you? A lot of people also don’t realize that we aren’t born anxious, nervous or shy. It’s something we learn to do and practice over the years. As a very young child you didn’t nervously tippy toe over to your Mum and go “Ehm…excuse me…c..c..c…can I have some s..s…s…upper p…p…please? There is no gene that stipulates you have to be anxious, nervous, shy or lacking in confidence.

There are certain genetic make ups that allegedly make people more pre-disposed to have these feelings but its by no means clear cut.

They still have to have experiences and interpret the world in a certain way and then consistently do that to develop and maintain those feelings.

As children, when we decided to do something we just did it!…without fear of recrimination or failure.
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You are Awesome because? – Exercise

Monday, February 11th, 2013

 

I was chatting to a random stranger on the train last night (as you do!) and we both commented on how often we don’t take advantage of the amazing things on our door step…that we take them for granted and sometimes even forget they are there.

 

For example lots people who live in Edinburgh have never been to the ‘Edinburgh tattoo’…It’s something ‘tourists’ do. I’m from Falkirk and I’ve only JUST been to the ‘Falkirk Wheel! (it’s pretty good btw:-))

 

Brian and I have just finished a two day NLP Practitioner refresher course in Inverary for Argyle & Bute Council. (Big shout to the A&B posse!)

 

 

Even though I’ve been there several times now the beauty of the surroundings still blows me away! I always forget and take for granted how beautiful Scotland is.

 

 

Check out the photo of the view from our breakfast room…Amazing!

 

 

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How often do we do this with ourselves. It’s so easy to take your own talents for granted.

 

I don’t know about you but it was always driven into me from a young age ‘not to boast’. I can still hear my Dad saying “No-one likes a boaster son!” :-)

 

While it’s obviously not particularly attractive to go around telling people how amazing you are every minute of the day, I do think we internalize this way too much. We take our own ‘awesomeness’ for granted.

 

So I’d like to flip this round a bit…There is absolutely nothing wrong with boasting!…provided it’s done on the inside.

 

In fact, a lot of the time, the more you recognise your value on the inside the more you don’t necessarily need to validate it on the outside.

 

Here’s a quick game I like to play…It’s called ‘I am Awesome because?’

 

It’s a really simple game…Take a piece of paper and a pen (Or your I-Pad!) and write down – ‘I am awesome because?’

 

Allow the question to resonate inside…see where it takes your attention and let it sink deep…then, when answers start to naturally come, write them down.

 

Let it come more from your heart than your head and keep asking it for at least ten minutes…you might be surprised by some of the answers and by how absolutely awesome you feel after doing it :-)

 

Because……..You are awesome…what is not taking yourself for granted really like?

 

All the best

Steve

Peeling Back the Layers of Fear…

Monday, February 11th, 2013

 

One of the most commonly asked questions in Personal Development has to be “What would you do if you couldn’t fail?”

 

It’s a pretty decent question and, when you fully consider it, it does open your mind up to new possibilities.

 

For some reason though, I’ve never really been that keen on it. I’ve asked myself the question countless times and always seem to come up with daft answers like ‘World domination!’ or ‘Befriend Hugh Hefner and get free access to the playboy mansion’ (joke:-)).

 

I’ve never really found it that useful though…It’s possibly because I know how essential ‘Failure’ is to learning and growing that I don’t particularly see it as a something you have to ignore or hide from.

 

I MUCH prefer the question – “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

 

For a start I love imagining a place without unnecessary fear. It makes me feel a feeling of serenity I can’t quite describe.

 

Above all though, it just seems to have a way of helping me quickly tap into ‘The Real Me’. The one that sometimes hides behind the curtain of fear.

 

The one that taps me on the shoulder every now and again and says – “Emm…excuse me but why don’t you take me out more often? We have such fun when you do!”

 

Fear definitely affects our sense of clarity about who we are and I think it’s really important to re-connect as much as possible with this ‘Real you’. I think the question is a great way to start the process.

 

So tell me “What WOULD you do if you weren’t afraid?”

 

What’s behind the curtain?…go on, pull it back and take a look. I know you’ll be pleasantly surprised. :-)

 

Take Care

Steve