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Archive for March, 2013

Confidence and Self worth – Do you feel ‘loveable’

Sunday, March 17th, 2013

I read somewhere that deep down, the root of all our issues is that we just want to be loved and feel like we are ‘loveable’. I think there’s a lot in that…

To be loved is one of the highest ‘values’ we can have placed on us. To feel that we are ‘loveable’ gives us the full blown experience that we are indeed worthy and valuable.

It’s like the 3 Michelin star fine dining version of confidence builders…It’s where you feel your value and worth as a person has been unequivocally validated. It touches you deep within and lets you realise that you are actually perfectly okay.

I do think most of our issues, at some level, come about from the fear that we are not valued or that something could happen to cause our intrinsic sense of value to drop.
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Confidence and Self Worth – Were you part of the ‘cool crowd’?

Sunday, March 17th, 2013

When I was in secondary I used to struggle badly with ‘the cool crowd’. (I know you’ll find that very difficult to believe :-) ) I never really seemed to fit in with them.

I soon found my comfort with a slightly less ‘cool crowd’ but one where I felt appreciated and valued.

I’ve since re-evaluated those memories as I now realise ‘the cool crowd’ actually weren’t as cool as I initially thought!

I met one of them recently on the train coming back from Edinburgh. His nickname at school was ‘Kempy’.

I thought he was super cool and, at the time, believed he was much more socially valuable than me.
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Overcoming Anxiety

Monday, March 4th, 2013

A couple of weekends ago I was down in London and I remember feeling a bit anxious for the first time in a while. I’ve got to admit it took me by surprise a bit.

I was down on business for the weekend so probably should have been in bed early! but I could resist checking out the London Latino Salsa scene!

I’m normally pretty comfortable going out to a bar on my own but, as a I approached ‘Bar Salsa’, I found myself starting to tighten up.

I think it was because I’d never been out in London on my own before, it had always been with friends, that it suddenly felt all alien and new to me.
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